Diary Post: Feeling inadequate

Nobody is perfect. You open instagram, see those perfect travel pictures; dream houses or “perfect parents.” None of that is 100% reality. Those parents will have had their ups and downs, those motivational bloggers will have their down moments… and that’s the norm.

A few nights ago, ironically when the whole country was huddled in suspense over the England World Cup match against Columbia, I was sat in my room on my bed. Just sat there. I was watching youtube videos, but the words and sounds just went over my head. I wasn’t there, I was sad and – not going to lie- a bit teary. I felt inadequate, average, worthless and downright pointless.

Diary Post: Feeling inadequate

I was fed up of not getting where I wanted to be and the fact that even when lowering my expectations of myself, I still hadn’t achieved them. I like to make myself goals, as you can see from my 2018 goals and even the update of them, but there’s a problem. All my life I have been a perfectionist and if I feel like it won’t, or isn’t perfect, I give up. I don’t complete things. I start books but don’t finish, I start scrapbooking, but don’t finish; the list goes on! The point is I was getting fed up and it just all struck me at once.

Another negative aspect of me, is my need for control. There are so many things in my life that I want but feel I have no control over at the moment. Yes, I have control over my education, my finances, my earnings, my job.. but there are some things that aren’t solely my decision and which I can’t start or begin.

The point of writing this post is not just for you but also for me. I need to acknowledge the negative and to try and resolve it with some positivity; even if it’s taken me a few days.Diary Post: Feeling inadequate

You matter. We all matter. We are all here for a reason, and even when things don’t go our way, we need to realise and remember this. Our struggles, obstacles and pains are lessons and development; our visions and dreams are our motivation and calling. Everything you ask for and want is well on its way and within reach, perhaps just not always in the time frame you want.

You have to start believing and keep listening. Stick to your guts, trust your instincts and don’t ignore them! They’re there to guide you and help you down the right path… the sat nav of your body. It’s time to believe and listen.Diary Post: Feeling inadequate

We’re all in the same boat and life can be rocky but don’t let yourself fall xxx

The Frugal Frenchie

The ultimate girl boss playlist

It’s been a while that I’ve written a post, in fact, it almost feels like I’m starting out again after being off the scene for a while. Trust me, I’ve been here and on the game. In fact, I’ve recently started a business where social media plays a key part so because of this, and the buzz I’m still feeling about it, I thought I would share with you the ultimate girl boss playlist

Get ready to get your sass on girls!

The Frugal Frenchie x

  • “Man I feel like a woman” – Shania Twain

This was one of the first songs that I ever created a dance to at music camp and got me feeling all girly but damn proud of it!

  • “9 to 5” – Dolly Parton

Totally different but equally as motivating! Nobody likes a 9-5 so get motivated and put a stop to it! Work hard and you can achieve anything.

Remember: “Barely gettin’ by, it’s all takin’ and no givin'” so change it!

The ultimate girl boss playlist

  • “Respect” – Aretha Franklin

I’d like to think I could sing like her, but it’s never going to happen haha! So much sass and with truer lyrics never spoken, this is at the top of my list!

  • “I’m coming out” – Diana Ross

I just realised that not only is this an awesome playlist but it’s full of powerful, influential and successful women too! “Two birds with one stone,” for sure! I love this song by Diana Ross, show the world what you’re doing and what a success you’re making of yourself, you’ve earned it!

Do it: “I want the world to know, Got to let it show”

The ultimate girl boss playlist

  • “Run the world (girls)” – Beyonce

Ok, how could I not put this song in? This is my GO-TO for sooo many reasons. Women have always been underestimated in the work place and to this day still rarely get the big CEO positions. Becoming your own boss is so empowering and any women who work for themselves deserve to think they are amazing!

Go listen to these songs and feel the sass come out! What are your motivational songs? Let me know! xx

 

*Photo credit goes to Bets!