Mental Health Stigma- does it still exist?

Mental Health Stigma- does it still exist? Perhaps a bold title and question to discuss, but it’s important to openly speak about it, out of fear of otherwise, subconsciously, becoming a silent supporter of this stigma. This is a different style of post, based on lectures that I have received during my BSc in Psychology. Hope you learn something new.

The Frugal Frenchie

Defining a stigma

First of all, do you know what is meant by a stigma? It can mean several things:

“a mark or sign of disgrace or discredit”
“disqualified from full social acceptance”
“negative effects of a label”

 

The Institute of Psychiatry actually described a stigma as having three components: that of ignorance (as a stigma is based on preconceived ideas and assumptions), prejudice and discrimination.

Note: discrimination and stigmas are not the same. Stigma focuses more on prejudice and ill-educated statements (a reason I’m writing this post today), whereas discrimination is more of an act. An act, preventing people from being treated equally or having equal access to opportunities or services. Continue reading “Mental Health Stigma- does it still exist?”

The Ultimate Money Saving Guide for Parents

I am all for money saving, but sometimes I  feel like money saving posts are always designed towards students? Not sure if others feel this way… anyway, I thought I’d do a different post, where you could find loads of money saving apps and freebies for parents all in one place. Hope this ultimate money saving guide for parents is useful for you!

The Frugal Frenchie

Baby clubs

Many shops and companies have apps to go alongside their “baby clubs.” Not only do they sometimes provide you with freebies, it’s also a great way to get first knowledge of sales, coupons and access to private events.

My Mothercare – advantages include:

  • £100 worth of discount vouchers
  • Early access to their sales
  • Exclusive events instore outside of opening hours
  • 20% off maternity clothing
  • 24/7 medical advice

The Ultimate Money Saving Guide for Parents

Tesco Baby Club – advantages include:

  • Offers specifically aimed for your baby’s age  
  • Told about sales in advance
  • Competitions  

Boots Parenting Club – you need an advantage card to join up. Advantages include:

  • Free Boots magazines
  • 10 advantages points for every £1 spent on baby items (higher than the normal “rate”)
  • The possibility of free gifts
  • Coupons

Continue reading “The Ultimate Money Saving Guide for Parents”

Photo Diary: Making bath bombs at Lush!

A few weeks ago, I had my first ever blogging experience at The Body Shop. Although that was a good evening, the event at Lush was so much more enjoyable! We tried out massage bars, made some buche de Noel and even got into making bath bombs!

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Photo Diary: Making bath bombs at Lush!

Photo Diary: Making bath bombs at Lush!

Honestly though, how creative is their Halloween range? My favourite is the monster one (“Monster Ball”) pictured above, I think it should totally be a feature in the next Monsters Inc movie if they have one!

Photo Diary: Making bath bombs at Lush!

The staff made us feel so welcome and I love how they had a little itinerary all prepared for us! They also (very sensibly as I still didn’t feel like I knew many people) did an icebreaker where we got into pairs and tried massage bars out on each other. There were some great ones and I particularly liked the gingerbread one.

Here are also just some of the photos I took whilst making the buche de Noel and bath bombs!

Photo Diary: Making bath bombs at Lush!

It was fascinating to see all the ingredients that went into the facial cleanser, and let me tell you, putting two moulds of powder together is not as easy as it looks! My stars were invisible so kudos to those in the factory who make them perfect every time.

Here is just a sample of their Christmas range. There was a whole wall full but it grabbed so much attention that I found it impossible to photograph it all! Above, you’ll see the fab staff showing us a demo of the “Shoot for the Star,” bath bomb. It smelt delicious and the gold stars gradually melt too, which I didn’t know!

Photo Diary: Making bath bombs at Lush!

Of course, the whole range in Lush is beautiful, natural and smells incredible, but I loved this table of all their fresh face masks. So insta worthy!

Photo Diary: Making bath bombs at Lush!

Photo Diary: Making bath bombs at Lush!

Lush has some absolutely genius makeup products! A lot of their products can be used on multiple different areas of your face, and they even have a range of eyeshadows that work like crayons and lipsticks that look like a paint pallet for you to create your own lipstick shade!

Photo Diary: Making bath bombs at Lush!

Here is my bouche de Noel, as well as the bath bomb I made! We were also given the opportunity to take home any product from the store, to which I chose the  ScrubBee body butter. It’s supposed to smell like honey but I thought it smelt so much like white chocolate- either way I loved it! Leaves the skin feeling super moisturised.

Thank you Lush Bournemouth for the brilliant event; it was super enjoyable!

Bold and daring makeup look: Shop with me!

As you can probably tell from the pictures (or lack thereof) of me, I am not one for photoshoots or bold makeup looks. In fact, this is the second time in my whole life that I’ve ever had a contoured face! Because I’m super happy with how the pictures turned out, I thought I’d share with you this bold makeup look in a “shop with me” way. Hope you enjoy a different type of post!

The Frugal Frenchie

Bold and daring makeup look: Shop with me!

All the following products are vegan and cruelty-free (which is so important to me) so let’s get into my transformation!

Preparation

I used my detox clay mask to get rid of any dry skin or blackheads that could ruin the texture of my makeup. There’s nothing worse than putting makeup on and then it being ruined by such an avoidable thing!

Bold and daring makeup look: Shop with me!

Bold and daring makeup look: Shop with me!

Bold and daring makeup look: Shop with me!

Face

After primer, the Arbonne foundation in the shade “Porcelain” was used, followed by one of my favourite products, the setting pretty powder. The foundation has got a vaccum pump, so there is no product wasted! I think that’s just so economically and environmentally friendly that it was worth mentioning.  Oh oh and I didn’t even need any concealer because the foundation just had such good coverage!

That was just for the bare basics, but Emily then added some blush in the tone “Dusty rose,” which I thought made my normally unexistent cheekbones look nice and distinguished. The last touch was, of course, bronzer which really helped my face gain definition in front of the camera. Continue reading “Bold and daring makeup look: Shop with me!”

An update on my goals for 2018

With it now being the middle of the year, I thought it’d be a good time to give you an update on my goals for 2018. If you haven’t read the initial post, you can read it here, if not, I’ll get started; enjoy!

The Frugal Frenchie

In terms of the socialising aspect, I feel (for me) I’ve done pretty well! I’ve gone on two outings with my colleagues, I’ve met up with friends a few times – one of which I hadn’t seen in two years- and I met new people when I went for a photoshoot a few days ago. That’s compared to last year where the most socialising I did, was going downstairs and hanging out with my housemates for a few hours.

An update on my goals for 2018

This is a mid goal I’m going to give to myself though, take more pictures! Of all those outings, I only have one picture and I even went to a wedding yesterday and only took one of my boyfriend and I. I always think about pictures and want to take them, but I always feel awkward for asking… any tips for getting over that? I have barely any memories and regret it every time!

Concerning the blog, I feel like I have been making more of an effort. I still need to work on consistency, but I feel like my following has grown a decent amount. I’ve hosted two giveaways, written and received guest posts and I’m still working towards my first ever sponsored post.

I think the biggest difference towards blogging is my “mindset.” Continue reading “An update on my goals for 2018”

Advice with Annelies: girlfriend’s depression

This series will answer people’s questions or worries, either that have been asked to me or I wanted to give my opinion on. Of course, these are just suggestions, and if the problem is severe, you should seek professional help or advice. This addition’s topic of Advice with Annelies: girlfriend’s depression.

Advice with Annelies: girlfriend's depression

This is a long one and there is a lot to approach, but you can read the whole question (from reddit) below.

My girlfriend is depressed because of her parents. from Advice

Oh gosh, where to start? First of all, can I just say how great you’re doing at looking out for your girlfriend and that I’m so glad she can confide in you- especially when she doesn’t seem to have anyone else. It’s often easier to keep such thoughts to yourself, but you’re clearly a massive support for her.

Advice with Annelies: girlfriend's depression

“…she was unable to graduate on time this year because of her depression, which only made her parents angrier. Now she’s being pressured to find a full-time job when she is trying to improve her mental health first.”

It’s such an awful situation when parents don’t understand the severity of a mental health illness and acting in anger or disappointment definitely doesn’t help. As with the job, however, mental health does need to come first, and in the grand scheme of things, taking a year out will not hinder her future in any way, so I think that was the right move.

Regarding the job, is this a “to keep you occupied” reason or a “you need to earn some money reason?” If it’s the former, there are lots of other things she can do to keep her busy, especially as it may mean keeping her cognitively challenged and giving her goals and aims for the day. If it is the latter, then maybe it’d be a good compromise with the parents, to try and ease into part-time first and then full time later on. Alternatively, if there is angst about going into the world of work, perhaps, to help you both, you could research different methods of earning money. Depending on your location, there are many possible ideas such as participating in surveys, mystery shopping or ebay reselling etc.

“Long story short, I feel helpless. I don’t know what to do, if there’s anything I can do, to help her in this situation. I simply want to take her away from them but can’t afford to.”

By what you said, it definitely sounds like she could have depression, but taking medication should also be taken alongside therapy if this is possible. It is unfair for you to take the burden, speaking to a professional may really help her; especially concerning coping methods for being at home etc. In terms of what you should do next, it is difficult because I don’t know how much power you have/your age/your living situation.

If you live at home, is there a way for her to stay if she pays rent (maybe you could go halves?) or could you maybe rent out a very small place together? In the ideal situation, you would perhaps move in with each other so she can get away from the environment that is potentially the cause or trigger of her depression. However, I realise that this may not be possible, and visiting may not be often if you don’t drive etc. I’ve left some ideas on how to help in the next section.

Advice with Annelies: girlfriend's depression

“Are there any suggestions of what I could do to help other than being a shoulder to cry on? Should I confront her parents or just stay out of it?”

Personally, I would try and encourage her to seek professional help. If she has difficulty trusting adults as a result of her parents’ opinions and reactions to her mental health, try and reassure her that not everyone is like this and that they could genuinely help her. Another thing that could help, is with her mental and physical wellbeing. Especially if she can spend days in bed, try and encourage her to maybe take a walk occasionally and make sure she is eating correctly etc. Not only is it important for her to maintain her physical health, but exercise can also help give her a goal for the day and keep her busy, especially if she is not working.

I would not confront her parents about it, especially if they realise that she is in bed due to depression etc. but doesn’t take it seriously. She is still at home, and if unless you’re sure of how they’d react, you don’t know if it could potentially make the home environment even more awkward or tense for her.

I really hope this has helped and I wish you all the best! Hopefully, their understanding betters soon and that circumstances change for you both for the better!

The Frugal Frenchie