How to deal with stress in the workplace

I’ve recently just started a new job that requires more responsibility, more time management skills, more pressure and more running-back-and-forth-like-a- mad-woman. Although I have yet to master this, I have been really thinking about how to deal with stress in the workplace, so I thought I’d make it into a post. Hope it helps!

The Frugal Frenchie

Tip No.1 Focus on one thing at a time

How to deal with stress in the workplace

It’s sometimes easy to think about how many jobs you have to do and then trying to start and complete them all at once. Try and get through them one at a time so you don’t have loads of incomplete jobs on the go which can result in you looking like you’re slacking or being lazy.

Quality not quantity, guys!

Tip No.2 Teamwork

This, of course, depends on the nature of your job, but if there is a possibility to work on a project or ask the advice or opinions of colleagues do it!

If one of the sources of your workplace stress is not being 100% sure of what to expect, then ask a more experienced colleague for a quick tip. Alternatively, if you manage a team, make sure you distribute jobs evenly and make sure that everyone knows what they need to do. They may be unaware of all the jobs that need doing so don’t always expect them to be psychics and do it instinctively!

How to deal with stress in the workplace

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Punish internet trolls harder

This is a very impulsive, angry ranty kind of post. I’ve just seen the news, it’s 22:48 on the 30th August and I am fuming. Punish internet trolls harder! Read on to see why I think this and how I think it could be done.

The Frugal Teen

Early on this year in February, one of my secondary school classmates (I won’t name her here) died, tragically whilst on a night out. She was an absolutely amazing girl: sailing champion, head of the school and destined for sheer greatness.

Months later, I get called by my mum to come and watch the news. Her face is all over it, somebody has been trolling her remembrance account and her memory for months. They made false allegations and vandalised pictures of her. He had caused such distress for parents who had just lost their only child, as well as trolling three other teenagers who had died tragically.

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Advice with Annelies: teenagers and social media

This series will answer people’s questions or worries, either that have been asked to me or I wanted to give my opinion on. Of course, these are just suggestions, and if the problem is severe, you should seek professional help or advice. This addition’s topic of Advice with Annelies: teenagers and social media.

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Diary Post: Feeling inadequate

Nobody is perfect. You open instagram, see those perfect travel pictures; dream houses or “perfect parents.” None of that is 100% reality. Those parents will have had their ups and downs, those motivational bloggers will have their down moments… and that’s the norm.

A few nights ago, ironically when the whole country was huddled in suspense over the England World Cup match against Columbia, I was sat in my room on my bed. Just sat there. I was watching youtube videos, but the words and sounds just went over my head. I wasn’t there, I was sad and – not going to lie- a bit teary. I felt inadequate, average, worthless and downright pointless.

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Advice with Annelies: girlfriend’s depression

This series will answer people’s questions or worries, either that have been asked to me or I wanted to give my opinion on. Of course, these are just suggestions, and if the problem is severe, you should seek professional help or advice. This addition’s topic of Advice with Annelies: girlfriend’s depression.

Advice with Annelies: girlfriend's depression

This is a long one and there is a lot to approach, but you can read the whole question (from reddit) below.

My girlfriend is depressed because of her parents. from Advice

Oh gosh, where to start? First of all, can I just say how great you’re doing at looking out for your girlfriend and that I’m so glad she can confide in you- especially when she doesn’t seem to have anyone else. It’s often easier to keep such thoughts to yourself, but you’re clearly a massive support for her.

Advice with Annelies: girlfriend's depression

“…she was unable to graduate on time this year because of her depression, which only made her parents angrier. Now she’s being pressured to find a full-time job when she is trying to improve her mental health first.”

It’s such an awful situation when parents don’t understand the severity of a mental health illness and acting in anger or disappointment definitely doesn’t help. As with the job, however, mental health does need to come first, and in the grand scheme of things, taking a year out will not hinder her future in any way, so I think that was the right move.

Regarding the job, is this a “to keep you occupied” reason or a “you need to earn some money reason?” If it’s the former, there are lots of other things she can do to keep her busy, especially as it may mean keeping her cognitively challenged and giving her goals and aims for the day. If it is the latter, then maybe it’d be a good compromise with the parents, to try and ease into part-time first and then full time later on. Alternatively, if there is angst about going into the world of work, perhaps, to help you both, you could research different methods of earning money. Depending on your location, there are many possible ideas such as participating in surveys, mystery shopping or ebay reselling etc.

“Long story short, I feel helpless. I don’t know what to do, if there’s anything I can do, to help her in this situation. I simply want to take her away from them but can’t afford to.”

By what you said, it definitely sounds like she could have depression, but taking medication should also be taken alongside therapy if this is possible. It is unfair for you to take the burden, speaking to a professional may really help her; especially concerning coping methods for being at home etc. In terms of what you should do next, it is difficult because I don’t know how much power you have/your age/your living situation.

If you live at home, is there a way for her to stay if she pays rent (maybe you could go halves?) or could you maybe rent out a very small place together? In the ideal situation, you would perhaps move in with each other so she can get away from the environment that is potentially the cause or trigger of her depression. However, I realise that this may not be possible, and visiting may not be often if you don’t drive etc. I’ve left some ideas on how to help in the next section.

Advice with Annelies: girlfriend's depression

“Are there any suggestions of what I could do to help other than being a shoulder to cry on? Should I confront her parents or just stay out of it?”

Personally, I would try and encourage her to seek professional help. If she has difficulty trusting adults as a result of her parents’ opinions and reactions to her mental health, try and reassure her that not everyone is like this and that they could genuinely help her. Another thing that could help, is with her mental and physical wellbeing. Especially if she can spend days in bed, try and encourage her to maybe take a walk occasionally and make sure she is eating correctly etc. Not only is it important for her to maintain her physical health, but exercise can also help give her a goal for the day and keep her busy, especially if she is not working.

I would not confront her parents about it, especially if they realise that she is in bed due to depression etc. but doesn’t take it seriously. She is still at home, and if unless you’re sure of how they’d react, you don’t know if it could potentially make the home environment even more awkward or tense for her.

I really hope this has helped and I wish you all the best! Hopefully, their understanding betters soon and that circumstances change for you both for the better!

The Frugal Frenchie

I’ve finished my second year at university

I’ve finished! It’s such a relief to be done with exams and soon entering my third and final year of university, where all the “exciting” stuff happens! I was planning to do a 6-month update since my first week in second year, but I thought I might as well wait an extra month and then talking about finishing my second year at university. Enjoy!

The Frugal Frenchie

So, where to start?

From October to January I had my first two topics which were BioPsychology and Personality, Intelligence and Social Psychology (PINS). I was a little daunted by the biological subject as, if any of you know me from earlier education, I suck at science and maths (ironic I know). It’s not a matter of not understanding, it’s just I struggle to remember it and ask so many questions that I end up confusing myself or being frustrated by knowing things “half-heartedly.” PINS was a lot more orientated around my interests, how people act and why, how society can affect our judgements or what society, in general, does psychologically.

I've finished my second year at university

In January, we had two exams, both three hours each. For me, these were my first English university exams so I was rather apprehensive about what to expect. The workload was a lot less this term, but examiners are amazing at making themselves unpredictable so that was no reassurance for me! The biological exam consisted of 50% multiple choice questions (50 questions) and 50% short essay questions. I felt at times I had a complete mind blank, but it was great to not feel time pressure as it meant I could come back to them later on. I ended up getting 2% off a first – felt so close yet so far haha. The PINS exam consisted simply of three long essays. I thought the questions were great and I had no trouble in answering them, finishing 10 minutes early out of a possible three hours! I was 5% off a first in that exam.

From January to the end of May, we had two new topics: Developmental and Clinical Psychology (DEVCLIN) and Cognition and Language (CAL). Honestly, I let out a large sigh after writing CAL. CAL was an absolute nightmare. I just couldn’t get into it as a subject. It was very detailed and, how to put it…. not very interesting. We went through things like how one goes from hearing sounds to identifying words, or different theories on how we understand sentences. Actually, in summary, it sounds interesting, but not so much when learning it! DEVCLIN was much more fascinating, I felt that that’s what you wait to learn when you start a psychology degree. We discussed how children develop mentally, what they are capable of at which age etc. In fact, I gave an example of this, explaining why young children can’t lie. The clinical side is more self-explanatory, discussing the symptoms, treatments and causes of several disorders, such as OCD, Social Anxiety Disorder, PTSD, to name a few.  I found this so interesting and it’s definitely something I’m interested in learning more about next year.

I've finished my second year at university

On the 21st and 23rd May I had my last two exams of the year! CAL, unsurprisingly was horrid, I have no idea what to expect for it and similarly have no idea of how I performed. Hopefully, I’ll surprise myself, though the questions tested my understanding of the topic, which unfortunately I felt I lacked in this case. DEVCLIN had good questions, and I felt that I could answer them with sufficient detail and that I knew enough to write a good 3 or more pages about them. I must say though that my memory for references was appalling – not sure how that influences the marking though!

I've finished my second year at university

There it is, a very brief summary of my second year at university! Best not to dwell on the exams, or the coursework that I had (I had some for every topic and 4 for statistics) and just move on and brainstorm for next year! I have to decide what I’d like to research for my dissertation, eeeek.