Lifestyle, Psychology

Diary Post: Feeling inadequate

Nobody is perfect. You open instagram, see those perfect travel pictures; dream houses or “perfect parents.” None of that is 100% reality. Those parents will have had their ups and downs, those motivational bloggers will have their down moments… and that’s the norm.

A few nights ago, ironically when the whole country was huddled in suspense over the England World Cup match against Columbia, I was sat in my room on my bed. Just sat there. I was watching youtube videos, but the words and sounds just went over my head. I wasn’t there, I was sad and – not going to lie- a bit teary. I felt inadequate, average, worthless and downright pointless.

Diary Post: Feeling inadequate

I was fed up of not getting where I wanted to be and the fact that even when lowering my expectations of myself, I still hadn’t achieved them. I like to make myself goals, as you can see from my 2018 goals and even the update of them, but there’s a problem. All my life I have been a perfectionist and if I feel like it won’t, or isn’t perfect, I give up. I don’t complete things. I start books but don’t finish, I start scrapbooking, but don’t finish; the list goes on! The point is I was getting fed up and it just all struck me at once.

Another negative aspect of me, is my need for control. There are so many things in my life that I want but feel I have no control over at the moment. Yes, I have control over my education, my finances, my earnings, my job.. but there are some things that aren’t solely my decision and which I can’t start or begin.

The point of writing this post is not just for you but also for me. I need to acknowledge the negative and to try and resolve it with some positivity; even if it’s taken me a few days.Diary Post: Feeling inadequate

You matter. We all matter. We are all here for a reason, and even when things don’t go our way, we need to realise and remember this. Our struggles, obstacles and pains are lessons and development; our visions and dreams are our motivation and calling. Everything you ask for and want is well on its way and within reach, perhaps just not always in the time frame you want.

You have to start believing and keep listening. Stick to your guts, trust your instincts and don’t ignore them! They’re there to guide you and help you down the right path… the sat nav of your body. It’s time to believe and listen.Diary Post: Feeling inadequate

We’re all in the same boat and life can be rocky but don’t let yourself fall xxx

The Frugal Frenchie

7 thoughts on “Diary Post: Feeling inadequate

  1. I love this post, you write beautifully and it’s such an important thing to remember that even though it may seem like someone has a more perfect life they have their own troubles too and that’s okay. We all matter and that’s what’s important! 🙂 xx

  2. Such a wonderful post. I’m sorry that you were feeling this way. I find it’s important to remember what we have ourselves. And to find a way to look at Instagram and other social media platforms as inspiration, or motivation to gain our goals. Rather than to compare it to what we have, and what we’re doing since we may be at a totally different place in life to them.

    1. I totally agree!
      I use them when thinking of my own goals but then can sometimes be too hard on myself!

  3. I can’t heart this post enough.
    Remember in all the chaos that you have some great things going for you… a job for a start. But regardless of what we have going for us we all feel the pressure with social media becoming one of the main influences on our culture it’s hard to avoid feeling overwhelmed by the success and perceived happiness of others. Get your friends together for a night in (or plan a fun live chat with your online baes) and remind yourself that you are good enough and you are loved. And wait for this whole thing to run it’s course.

  4. Perfectionist control-freaks unite!

    I know how you feel, as well as I can understand from this post anyhow. I also struggle with feeling inadequate and like I’m not doing enough and doing it perfectly enough.

    So thanks for posting this and echoing the thoughts I’m sure a lot of us have. It helps to feel a little bit less alone in the world. 🙂

    1. Thank you Mykki, means a lot!
      I don’t often write posts like that, but that’s exactly the reason why I thought I should write it down- it’s important to speak about feeling down as well as positive things xx

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